Often relationship issues are considered either one persons fault or the others fault. Either way it's looked at, the drive is to blame someone for the problems.  And yet, often relationship problems begin not with any one action, but due to many little actions or in-actions which layer upon layer, accumulate into a multi-layered mountain of challenges.

Through a careful and thoughtful approach to couples or marital counseling, these smaller issues often reveal themselves in the context of an honest dialogue within the safe, neutral space which is specifically created within the office of professionals.  Anxiety, deep-seated depression or tendencies towards depressive actions, challenges with focus or an unfortunate history of trauma can all lead to a relationship which is less than desirable but which can grow to become satisfying and loving.

In fact, very often individuals are unable to blatantly identify their internal emotional states leading to confusion and unwanted animosity towards those who generally care. This can be, and very often is very frustrating and debilitating.  It prevents a worthwhile dialogue from happening; It builds walls and resentments which fuels bitterness; It robs relationships and individuals of possibilities and opportunities yet to be gained.  In essence it prevents growth and compassion from rooting...denying love to blossom.

It's difficult to look at ourselves with an objective eye; looking with a critical eye is easy.  Self judgment and negative self-talk is easy and automatic. As individuals are unable to identify internal states i.e., "I didn't know I had anxiety or depression or trauma complications tend to muddy the waters of help resulting in a sense of helplessness and ultimately blame leveled at someone or another.

Through counseling and Brainwave Optimization these muddy waters are cleared as ones beliefs and STUCK brain patterns (yes! actually stuck electro-chemical patterns in the brain) get unstuck and are challenged.  Thus leading to healthy, rewarding relationships and a rich loving inner-dialogue causing mindful reflection and growth.  Please visit my websites www.graftoncounseling.com or www.mybalancedbrain.com to learn more.